just before i pop into bed and end this long day, i would like to thank piggy for this virtual support. i really help me to know that pple are hearing my voice, and esply to you who seldom reads blog =P
There's no doubt about it. Men and women are wired differently. Men know this, yet they continue to use the same, ineffective tactics to try to get women. What's even more stunning is that they are surprised when those tactics don't work. So, just what are those differences and how do they effect the way that men and women communicate?
doesnt it interest you how to improve your relationship with your partners/future-partners? recently i've been reading this book.. there are so many covers to it that I could hardly find the one I'm reading.. but here you go.
though still half way through, I thought it is a great book. how it relates and explains women so well. this is until I was talking abt this book to my friends, and one commented that it is not anymore relevant to the current situation/society context. while this friend said that the book was written to explain the context and not the other way round which shld have been (i was utterly confused so dont expect me to explain his stand logically. haha), the other friend said it is not useful to him. lol~
but i was thinking. if i had read this book earlier, would i be saved? it takes two hands to clap, just as it takes two person to understand to work towards coherence. i thought i could known when not to say what, but would i be understood when i will need what? unless, if the person is sensitive enough.
in different points of a person's life, there are different supports. as one would call, pillars of support, but to me, it somehow isnt ever the same. and yet, they all had the same symbol to me, that these people understood me, understood my needs, and were there to help me through. in the point i could no longer take it anymore, -punch me if i hadnt ever thanked you- i was really really glad and thankful that i had a shoulder to cry on, and a person to rant to. i was a baby. hahaha! it was probably a small gesture, but it was my needs. i know it without understanding it. like how i know guys like to have their little privacy but never really understanding it. and i really really am ___ (words cant fill in my feelings) i hope i'm making sense to all. oops hahaha!
i like my memories, and reading this book while thinking back, it was really nice that i wasnt reprimanded for being too 'fierce' - you know, like when i was harsh. hahaha now i feel so bad though i didnt mean it that way. its interesting to explore a guy who shows their opposite masculinity when they do sit down and listen instead of give advices, to heed and take on your advices when you give them, to receive your 'commands'. no, please dont be mistaken, its not a negative connotation. maybe i'll just sum it in a short sentence, women (me) will learn from now to see how rare it is, and give thanks to them - verbally - to show my appreciation. i missed my chances, so here it goes, i know it will be caught =)
just one thing to note. to some people, too too warm a gesture will scare pple away. (its a different topic. pple who knows yes i write vaguely. pple who dont, now u do. hahah) i cant take it unless i see sparks. till now, i see none from anywhere. in anycase, thats the impression i get so dont if no one wants to be mistaken, then never toootooo. so yeah, but thank you, and I should learn not to scare the party off in return, but instead, say in a nice way.
maybe a book can teach me - if i have time to explore it. wahhaha!
and if u peepz have time, do explore this page especially on the quotation segment =)
with this, good night and 加油 to all muggers and jobseekers. me included. wahhaha!
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