有一种心情叫做思念
有一种痛苦叫做思念
有一种快乐叫做思念
有一种悲哀叫做思念
有一种幸福叫做思念
有一种离别是为了思念
有一种相聚是为了思念
思念是一种永恒，在我们的心底
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
The Tenth Tuesday We Talk About Marriage
Marriage. Almost everyone I knew had a problem with it. Some had problems getting into it, some had problems getting out. My generation seemed to struggle with the commitment, as if it were an alligator from some murky swamp.
Why do we have such problems? Having waited seven years before I proposed to Janine, I wondered if people my age were being more careful of those who came before us, or simply more selfish?
"Well, I feel sorry for your generation," Morrie said. "In this culture, it's so important to find a loving relationship with someone because so much of the culture does not give you that. But the poor kids today, either they're too selfish to take part in a real loving realtionship, or they rush into marriage and then six months later, they get divorced. THey don't know what they want in a partner. They don't know who
they are themselves - so how can they know who they're marrying?""It's sad, because a loved one is so important. You realize that, especially when you're in a time like I am, when you're not foing so well. Friends are great, but friends are not going to be here on a night when you're coughing and can't sleep and someone has to sit up all night with you, comfort you, try to be helpful."
"I've learned this much about marriage," he said now. "You get tested. You find out who you are, who the other person is, and how you accommodate or don't."
Is there some kind of rule to know if a marriage is going to work?
"Things are not that simple, Mitch."
I know.
"Still," he said, "There are a few rules I want to be true about love and marriage: If you don't respect the other person, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don't know how to compromise, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can't talk openly about what goes on between you, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don't have a common set of values in life, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike."
"And the biggest one of those values, Mitch?"
Yes?
"Your belief in the importance of your marriage."
He sniffed, then closed his eyes for a moment.
"Personally," he sighed, his eyes still closed, "I think marriage is a very important thing to do, and you're missing a hell lot if you don't try it."
He ended the subject by quoting the poem he believed in like a prayer: "Love each other or perish."
Monday, May 26, 2008
地震中最伟大的母亲
抢救人员发现她的时候，她已经死了，是被垮塌下来的房子压死的，透过那一堆废墟的的间隙可以看到她死亡的姿势，
When rescuers found her, she was already dead, crushed by the collapsed house. Through gaps in the rubbles, they could see her posture.
双膝跪着，整个上身向前匍匐着，双手扶着地支撑着身体，有些象古人行跪拜礼，只是身体被压的变形了，看上去有些诡异。
Kneeling on both knees, her entire upper body bent forward, held up by her two hands
pressed against the ground, as if performing the ceremonial bow in an ancient ritual. Except, her body had been compressed out of shape and looked somewhat eerie.
救援人员从废墟的空隙伸手进去确认了她已经死亡，又在冲着废墟喊了几声，用撬棍在在砖头上敲了几下，里面没有任何回应。
A rescuer extended his hand through a gap and confirmed her death. He called out to her, and tapped on the bricks with his shaft, but received no response.
当人群走到下一个建筑物的时候，救援队长忽然往回跑，边跑变喊'快过来'。他又来到她的尸体前，费力的把手伸进女人的身子底下摸索。
As the team walked toward next building, the squad leader suddenly turned back, yelling as he ran, 'Come quick!' He came to her remain, labored to maneuver his hand under her body, searching.
他摸了几下高声的喊'有人，有个孩子，还活着'。
He called out following some rummaging, 'There's someone, a child, still alive.'
经过一番努力，人们小心的把挡着她的废墟清理开，在她的身体下面躺着她的孩子，包在一个红色带黄花的小被子里，大概有3、4个月大。
With some effort, rescuers carefully removed the debris burying her, found her child lying beneath her, bundled in a little red blanket decorated with yellow flower prints. He was about 3-4 months old.
因为母亲身体庇护着，他毫发未伤，抱出来的时候，他还安静的睡着，他熟睡的脸让所有在场的人感到很温暖。
Shielded by his mother's body , he was totally unharmed, sleeping peacefully as he was brought out. His soundly asleep face warmed the hearts of all rescuers on the scene.
随行的医生过来解开被子准备做些检查，发现有一部手机塞在被子里，医生下意识的看了下手机屏幕，发现屏幕上是一条已经写好的短信
As the rescue team's doctor unbundled the blanket to examine the baby, he discovered a mobile phone tucked into the blanket. He subconsciously looked at the display, found there was a SMS message.
'亲爱的宝贝，如果你能活着，一定要记住我爱你'，看惯了生离死别的医生却在这一刻落泪了，手机传递着，每个看到短信的人都落泪了。
'My Dear Baby, If you were to stay alive, you must remember that I love you.' No stranger to the pain and sorrow brought by death, the doctor nonetheless wept at this moment. The cell phone was passed around, every person who read the message wept..
我看不到你 也看不到自己
我被埋在黑暗之中 我不知道我是否还活着
我的血像时间一样在流逝
一切来得太突然
我来不及恐惧 已失去一切
我曾经以为 天空是平淡无奇的
现在才知道 能仰望蔚蓝 有多么幸福
所有爱我的人 我爱的人
你们在哪里 你们还活着吗
如果我们还能重逢
一定用所有的时间
深深相拥
我想要一口水 我想要多活一会儿
我期待你呼喊我的名字
让我知道我不是孤独的
我在黑暗中等待你
我会看到那温暖的光
因为我相信
你是爱我的
《爱》
today marks the 2nd week from the very second of the 8.0 汶川 quake..
336 hours has passed.
20,160 mins
1,209,600 seconds
and uncountable number of lives taken...
How to Flirt Like A Natural
How to Flirt Like A Natural
Master the art of flirting with these 8 expert tips!
Some people are natural flirts, but what if you're not one of those people? Fret not, we're here to help!
Learn about the secrets of flirting and master these fool-proof tactics of seduction, right here.
Flirting is the gateway to romance
Whether or not you firmly believe that men should make the first move, flirting is the gateway to finding romance. Why? By flirting, you are signalling the prospective partner that you're interested and attracted to him, in a teasing and engaging way. In other words, flirting is a subtle invitation for men to make a move.
This means that if you're shy and close off social interactions with the opposite sex, you're actually limiting your access to the pool of bachelors out there.
"Flirting is a negotiation process that takes place after there has been some initial attraction," observes Steven W. Gangestad, Ph.D., an evolutionary psychologist at the University of New Mexico in Albuquerque who is currently studying how people choose their mates.
"Two people have to share with each other the information that they are attracted, and then test each other" on an array of attributes. "The flirting then becomes something that enhances the attraction," adds Gangestad.
Flirting Tips
1. Work on your self-confidence.
Flirting is an art requiring confidence. If you're not exactly comfortable in your own skin, start working on your self-confidence: Who's going to believe you're sexy if you don't believe it yourself?
2. Keep smiling!
A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. Let the smile come forth naturally ? it will make you much more approachable.
3. Catch his eye.
Once you've identified that cute guy, catch his eye and smile with your brows slightly raised (a subtle sign of interest). Walk up to him until about an arm's length distance away, then start a conversation. Don't just talk away, make sure he's looking at you and is aware of your presence.
4. Give sincere compliments.
Compliment him on his clothes, or sense of humor. Saying "Hey, you've got a great jacket, where did you buy it?" makes him think that you are noticing things about him, and your attention is flattering.
5. Keep your body language open.
Look at him when talking but don't stare ? let your gaze dance from his eyes to his mouth and back occasionally, which signals attraction. When you're telling an anecdote, lightly touch his arm when you're about to reveal the climax of the story, as if you're making a point. Like "And you know what happened after that?" Touch the arm. "He actually flew to London to meet her!"
6. Listen with interest.
When he's talking, listen with interest. Sound like you're paying attention by adding "Hmmm..." or "Yeah..." at appropriate intervals and tilt your head to the side slightly which shows your interest and a desire to understand.
7. Be positive and engaging.
Keep your conversation light-hearted and humorous. Don't gossip negative stuff about a mutual friend. You don't want him to think you're a big blabbermouth.
8. Make Your Move.
When the conversation is coming to an end, and you decide you'll like to stay in touch, don't be afraid to leave your number with him. In fact, guys will be more responsive because they will think you are one hot chick who's available!
Friday, May 23, 2008
8 Ways to Beat On-the-Job Weight Gain
8 Ways to Beat On-the-Job Weight Gain
Small changes in your work routine that make a big difference to your waistline!
Holding a sedentary job, working long hours at the desk, plus the lack of time for exercise is enough to turn any office worker into a desk potato. Throw in the hectic workload and you've got a recipe for stress-induced snacking and compulsive bingeing. Before you know it, you're packing on the pounds. What to do? Here are some tips that can help you beat the 9-to-5 flab.
1. Eat regular meals.
Skipping meals not only leads to vending machine visits and post-working bingeing, it wreaks havoc on your metabolism, so eat your breakfast and lunch.
2. Keep a journal.
Make a list of what and when you eat. Having to write down every bite will help you think before you reach for a snack.
3. Never eat lunch in front of your workstation.
Go out and have lunch together with your colleagues, where you can relax and eat. Lunchtime break is a great time to temporarily take your mind off work and unwind.
4. Squeeze in more activities.
Move around in the workplace - every little bit of activity counts: Use the farthest restroom in your building; tackle a few flights of stairs during your coffee break; park at the farthest lot in the carpark. Even standing and moving around while you're on the phone helps.
5. Have healthy snacks on hand.
How do you resist those mid-afternoon shortbread cookies and chocolates your colleagues pass around? Stash nuts, fruit and other healthy snacks in your desk drawer. When you're hungry, snack on them and you'll be less tempted by the junk food around you.
6. Hang up the phone.
Technology like email and voicemail makes it too convenient to deliver a message to your colleagues without getting off your chair. When you need to talk to a co-worker across the office, don't automatically reach for the phone! Walk down the hall and relay your message personally.
7. Take deep breaths.
Practice waiting before you munch. Stress produces an adrenaline that for many people leads to compulsive snacking. Before you eat away "nervous energy", try waiting for 10 minutes. If your cravings are stress-induced, chances are they'll disappear.
8. Drink water.
Feeling hungry and tired? You may just be dehydrated. Keep water on your desk at all times and plan to drink at least a half ounce of water for every pound of body weight. If you weigh 180 pounds, that's 90 ounces of water.
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Fish! Philosophy
Good managers agree that the establishment of a well-thought-out strategic plan with various goals, objectives, strategies and action plans is critical to running a successful company. Effective leaders will agree that as important as a comprehensive strategic plan is, implementation of the plan is much more important. After all, one bank's strategies generally are not that unbelievably unique from another bank's. What differentiates those that succeed from those that fall short is getting the job done through your people. This abstract addresses what is arguably the most challenging aspect of management: "the human side."
Despite the plethora of books and articles that have been written on the subject of motivation and productivity, we all know that many managers continue to practice classical (Taylorism) management style. You will recall that this authoritarian style incorporates fear and intimidation to stimulate behavior rather than proven "sustainable" motivation styles such as Development management, Management by Consensus (MBC), Management by Objectives (MBO), and Participative Management.
A style that fits in well with the mention of this subject is "Contingency Management", in which the manager attempts to adapt to a given situation the management style which he believes is most effective based on events and individual personalities. However, in order to utilize Contingency Management effectively, the manager must agree that motives are internal; people do things for their reasons-not yours, that "my motives are different than yours", and that motives change with time.
If the manager accepts this reality, then the next step is to attempt to understand employee motives, create an environment for them to motivate themselves and, finally, reward desired or positive behavior in a timely fashion. By timely, it means as close as possible to the behavior that you would like to reinforce. Recognition and rewards may either be monetary or nonmonetary. Accolades about employee accomplishments in front of others or a pat on the back are simple but effective motivators. Many good leaders consider "attaboys" to be the cornerstone of good management. People at all levels need positive feedback. In fact, effective managers go out of their way to identify desired behavior so it can be rewarded immediately.
Without exception the most rewarding motivational techniques put employees
and customers first because, when implemented effectively, the results are improved productivity and bottom-line performance. A great example is the Pike Place Fish Market in Seattle. This company has demonstrated that it is possible to have a passion-filled, fun work environment only when you get employee involvement in creating a desired culture. It is encouraged for everyone to read the books available on the "Fish! Philosophy", not only because it may encourage you to rethink your style and culture, but it will also improve how you interrelate with others in your personal life as well.Very briefly, the Fish! Philosophy entails four steps:
1 Choose Your Attitude. Each day we have the ability to decide who we want to be and how we want to be perceived.
2 Play. Work made fun gets done. Play is not just an activity; it's a state of mind.
3 Make Their Day. This applies to doing something special for your customer. Something that makes them feel special and appreciated.
4 Be There. Being fully present and attentive to one another.
ok, that book shall be on my purchase list.
kok, u alright, right?
okay, don't make me worry.
Continue Reading...
Guangdong and Guangxi are relatively far from Sichuan, though not as far as SH is.
okay, its the exact period of your holiday.
kok kok! come online, your holiday has ended last weekend already!
okay, i'm worried.
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
年輕就是本錢。
年輕就是個本錢。趁年輕好好的去體驗。很多事是不能再從來的。
剛剛跟老闆大人聊了過一個小時的話，然後又和同事聊了半個小時……噢！今天好充實哦！結果本來要做的事都沒做成。
難得老闆大人抽空談天，讓我更多些了解了他，也談到了許多道理與生活小事。他說我太天真了。他說我還年輕，機會大把。他說新加坡其實是個危險的國家。他開玩笑的問我是不是不做工，直接結婚享福了。他說可以問問‘大只老’能不能養得起我，讓我享受太太福。
他說的話真可笑。
两个冬天 - 侯湘婷
some songs can remind you of certain scenes, certain people, or certain stages of your life. some songs are simply so touching it can move you to tears. some with wonderful lyrics and/or melody. others can be so very irritating that you will wanna turn it off the moment it starts.
just like with people, where different friends and types of people enter your life, some stay, some will leave. and songs are something that can suddenly bring you back the memories of the friends you have once spent time with. do you have a song that can remind you of the happy times, or simply any song that can move you? i'd like to share this song which is melancholic and yet soothing enough. my all-time favourite which i can almost never be bored of. it is especially meaningful that i have experienced winter, and goes through the same after-winter's packing-process...
this is one of a type in which the tune starts calmly and goes into stages of tumour and back to calmness at the end of the song. such genre of songs creates this lump of whirlpool in me as i listen to it. even though you people may probably never have heard this song before, i bet there are songs of the same catergory that is well-liked. avril lavigne songs are one of them. of coz, many other chinese songs as well...
touching songs
but do we need songs to remind us of the past?
do we really need to rely on a song to be touched?
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
The Ninth Tuesday We Talk About How Love Goes On
"I believe in being fully present," Morrie said. "That means you should be with the person you are with. When I'm talking to you now, Mitch, I try to keep focused only on what is going on between us. I am not thinking about something we said last week. I am not thinking of what's coming up this Friday. I am not thinking about doing another Koppel show, or about what medications I'm taking."
"I am talking to you. I am thinking about you."
Morrie montioned for my hand, and as I gave it to him, I felt a surge of guilt. Here was a man who, if he wanted, could spend every waking moment in self-pity, feeling his body for decay, counting his breaths. So many people with far smaller problems are so self-absorbed, their eyes glaze over if you speak for more than thirty seconds. They already have something else in mind - a friend to call, a fax to send, a lover they're daydreaming about. They only snap back to full attention when you finish talking, at which point they say "Uh-huh" or "Yeah, really" and fake their way back to the moment.
We are great at small talk: "What do you do?" "Where do you live?" But really listening to someone - without trying to sell them something, pick them up, recruit them, or get some kind of status in return - how often do we get this anymore?
Monday, May 19, 2008
Saturday, May 17, 2008
RS = RestlesS
i'm getting bored. so many of the weekends have been stuck at home, facing the computer, and typing reports. and whats more, i don't have a table to work on, thus typing in an awkward position with my poor leg getting numb so very often from it. i'm so getting stone-d from staring at the same screen for so longgg. have been fidgetting around for the last half hour, and concentration span is starting to shift. argh. starting to understand the RS state maoz is so often in. i'm close to saturation.
ROAR!
random
" If you look long enough into the abyss, the abyss will look back to you. "
Thursday, May 15, 2008
The Learning Process
There is no such thing as being "too old and stiff" to learn new stuff
 | Charin Yuthasastrkosol 71 years old and 203 days @ Albuquerque, New Mexico, USA Charin Yuthasastrkosol (USA) (b. Thailand, December 30, 1930) began ballet lessons at the age of 47. She now performs regularly at galas, her most recent being a performance for Sakthip Krairikish, Thailand's Ambassador to the USA at Albuquerque, New Mexico, USA on July 21, 2002 at the age of 71 years 203 days. | ||||
how then can I complain when I am at the bare age of 22?
why then, should I not pick up my interest?
what then, is stopping me?
which then, should I first take up?
who then, should not be telling themselves that they can do it too?
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
60 Things Girls Needs to Understand About Guys
was surfing the net andddd
some of these are sweet, and some rather hilarious.. like number 3, 14, 15, 26, 36(?since when?), 46, 48, 57 wahahah!
okok. i wonder why am i reading such stuff at work . XD
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
The 1969 Sino-Malay race riots in Kuala Lumpur that led to the NEP
An article on Straights Time of March 13, 2008 with the title "Don't fan racial flames, Abdullah warns" refers to the UMNO as defending the New Economic Policy (NEP) of Malaysia.
It happens the downfall of several state's power to the opposition party - Democratic Action Party - has really alerted the govt.
But why to defend the NEP when it doesnt really seem to benefit the nation as a whole? This is nonsense. It must have really meant something if the indigenious Malays have also opted against the nation's party.
A little history lesson to learn about the origins of this 'favouring system' will be good. Some 39 years ago from today where it had begun..
The Eighth Tuesday We Talk About Money
"We've got a form of brainwashing going on in our country," Morrie sighed. "Do you know how they brainwash people? They repeat something over and over. And that's what we do in this country. Owning things is good. More money is good. More property is good. More commercialism is good. More is good. More is good. We repeat it - and have it repeated to us - over and over until nobody bothers to even think otherwise. The average person is so fogged up by all this, he has no perspective on what's really important anymore."
"Wherever I went in my life, I met people wanting to gobble up something new. Gobble up a new car. Gobble a new piece of property. Gobble up the latest toy. And then they wanted to tell you about it. 'Guess what I got? Guess what I got?' You know how I always interpreted that? These were people so hungry for love that they were accepting substitutes. They were embracing material things and expecting a sort of hug back. But it never works. You can't substitute material things for love or for gentleness or for tenderness or for a sense of comradeship."
"There's a big confusion in this country over what we want versus what we need," Morrie said. "You need food, you want a choclate sundae. You have to be honest with yourself. You don't need the latest sports car, you don't need the biggest house."
"The truth is, you don't get satisfaction from those things. You know what really gives you satisfaction? Offering others what you have to give."
"I don't mean money, Mitch. I mean your time. Your concern. Your storytelling. It's not so hard. Devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to you community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning."
"Mitch, if you're trying to show off for people at the top. forget it. They will look down at you anyhow. And if you're trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone."
"Do the kinds of things that come from the heart. When you do, you won't be dissatisfied, you won't be envious, you won't be longing for somebody else's things. On the contrary, you'll be overwhelmed with what comes back.
Monday, May 12, 2008
Wild foxes just acting within their rights
 | A couple of wild foxes have killed and eaten most of the 100 hens a farmer had been raising on a slope near Shenyang, capital of Liaoning province, to feed a pregnant female fox. Li, the farmer, was angry, but could do nothing in response because the animals are protected by the State. | ||||
for one very simple reason why i put up this news : the picture is simply so cute! XD
have been reading other news online at work today as well. odd news. if you're keen for a laugh (or for a scratch on your head), do check out the below-mentioned sites =)
Toothache problem proves tough as nails
Escaped inmate returns to prison
Virtual marriage leads to actual thrashing
Beauty's tale of woe a perfect distraction for thief
Long goodbye nearly costs woman her luggage
Bloody vision scares cabbie into the night
Wife-cum-entrepreneur finds wealth in the home
When the Hen decides it would rather be a Cock
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Josef Fritzl - The man who raped his daughter and fathered 7 children from her
This news is scarily disgusting.
It reminds me of such issues which I had first read in GP classes back in JC. What was the term to such situations again - of kids being imprisoned and away from other forms of human touch?
can't remember.
of those I had read of in those times when I was studying about that, I read passages and saw pictures of how people/children can become when they are left alone for years. a family who lived in an abandoned farm whose children walked on all 4 and only one of the family member spoke barely-understandable human language; children who lived was imprisoned in a hut and made to live in caged ribs, and how they have deformed from the prolonged curled up position; an abandoned/lost child who grew up with monkeys/apes, etc... Such stuff has been existing since decades ago, and it has not changed despite the improvements made to our society as a whole.
What has the world become?
perhaps in the future when people travel from point to point in airbuses, it will be the generation when imprisoned people will live in the air in some isolated point on Earth. maybe then, they see too much of the sunlight and air that they never get to see the ground until they are discovered and saved from the misery. maybe, people will start to get more loving towards other people.
maybe
Monday, May 5, 2008
Stolen Email!!
i am going crazy already.
I have just came back from holiday yesterday to realise that BOTH my frequented email accounts has been stolen!! ahhhh! managed to get back my yahoo email, but have not succeeded into retrieving back my hotmail account.
the stupid guy who broke into my yahoo email even changed my location, postal code, name, and secondary email. FOR WHAT?!! i have not managed to find the contact method to the hotmail people. and I cant reset my password, coz it will be sent to my default email - which is the one i cant get in. FOR WHAT will I want my new password to be sent to my old email IF I CAN'T GET IN TO MY EMAIL?! this is nonsense.
new age worries. sigh. can someone just tell me what to do..? should i probably like email the guy who HACKED into my yahoo acct and put his own secondary email there? like maybe its viable right..? but wouldn't I be exposing myself??? argh. this is stupid.
people, please, leave me a comment here in this post of your email so I can add you back if I have zero choice, or send me an email to my yahoo email account. it starts with the same aliase as the my blog address, and ends with a com dot SG. really appreciate everyone's contribution. I am hating this. argh.
Thursday, May 1, 2008
反而 ~ 五月天
想要执着 反而蹉跎 越是等候反而越是错过
找到成就 反而堕落 越是温暖反而越是折磨
寂寞 太多寂寞 反而喧哗拥挤着我
自由 太多自由 反而想作笼里的野兽
而你是否看穿了我 看穿了我假装的冷漠
而你是否害怕着我 反而带走属于我的温柔
看的清楚 反而朦胧 越是了解反而越是惶恐
保持沉默 反而脆弱 越是忍耐反而越是汹涌
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