watched Channel 8 【一切完美】 for the first time today. not too bad a show considering that it discusses a different genre as the norm. there was a sentence which had been repeated several times in this episode : 不看见一个人就不恨了吗？
i believe that everyone has - in their entire life up till now - ever had the feeling of hatred to a person, a group, or an event's occurance. no matter how good natured you are, it's normal to have experienced this. even Abbots ba - before they became enlightened - haha.
but why hate? one often hear others saying, you'll be the one suffering if you bear the hatred; the other party will not feel a pinch. but still, we continue having such negative emotions time and again. and this can result in negative results, either in a performance of actions/words, or internally wounded. and by scolding, it hurts both parties.. a teacher once told me, if we were to scold, reprimand not at the person, but the right way should be at person's wrong-doings (ie, actions, situation, etc) . but never should it be a direct hit like "You are stupid" or "I hate you", rather "I dislike the way you ..." .
life is so complicated - we have to consider so many aspects even when we get angry. hahaha! i think that is how psychological concerns had been in the rising state ever since humans got more complicated.
everyone is obliged (by themselves) to help themselves prevent sinking in to negative emotions. hahaha sounds like nonsense huh. anyway, that is why i have stocked up afew books related on emotions. This book that I am currently reading "Happier ... Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fufillment" is good in that it provides activities and illustrations that can allow a person to reflect on their life. okay i admit, i haven't been doing a single activity that they have recommended though. this is often called 心有余而力不足……
We also have the capacity for spirituality. The Oxford English Dictionary defines spirituality as "the real sense of significance of something." Animals cannot live a spiritual life; they cannot endow their actions with meaning beyond the pleasure or pain that those actions yield.
When speaking of a meaningful life, we often talk of having a sense of purpose, but what we sometimes fail to recognize is that finding this sense of purpose entails more than simply setting goals. Having goals or even reaching them does not guarentee that we are leading a purposeful existence. To experience a sense of purpose, the goals we set for ourselves need to be intrinsically meaningful.
We could set ourselves the goal of scoring top grades in college or owning a large house, yet still feel empty. To live a meaningful life, we must have a self-generated purpose that possesses personal significance rather than one that is dictated by society's standards and expectations. When we do experience this sense of purpose, we often feel as though we have found our calling. As George Bernard Shaw said, "This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself a mighty one."
Different people find meaning in different things. We may find our calling in starting up a business, working in a homeless shelter, raising children, practicing medicine, or making furniture. The important thing is that we choose our purpose in accordance with our own values and passions rather than conforming to others' expectations. An investment banker who finds meaning and pleasure in her work - who is in it for the right reasons - leads a more spiritual and fulfilling life than a monk who is in his field for the wrong reasons.
across all walks of life, you may be busy in your own separate one, extremely busy, but are you happy in it? are you leading a life you want? are you pursuing your passion? or have you not found yet?
Are you Happier?
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